As I sit here I am thinking of you. Yes, you. The worn. The stretched. The weak. The weary. I think of you. The wife. The mother. The daughter. The sister. The worker. The boss. The friend. The housemaid. The chef. The mess cleaner-upper. The bill payer and check book balancer. The grocery-getter. I think of you. The milk bottle maker. The shoe lace tier. The outfit picker. The backpack filler. The school list shopper. The after school activity manager. The laundry folder. I wonder about you. The cheerleader. The encourager. The shoulder to lean on. The worn thin woman.
There are a few things I want you to know.
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Dear super woman,
You feel alone. You feel overwhelmed. You feel like you just cannot go on. You carefully balance life, spinning numerous plates, wearing numerous hats. You feel like adding one more thing may just sink the boat. You speed through life, multitasking as you go, for it is the only way you can get everything done. You are making notes for notes, misplacing every note. You feel lost in your thoughts and checklists. You feel like you should do more in regards to your own health, but just need a few more hours in the day to accomplish such a task. There is just no way. You think of everyone before yourself, because that is who you are. You are wife. You are mom. You are daughter. You are sister. You are friend. You are so much. And YOU come last. Does anyone see what you do? Do you even see what you do?
I want you to know, I see you. I see you, because I am you. I know you well, because I walk a similar path. WE are super women. No one could do what we do, the way we do. You are amazing. You are doing some life altering things in your world. It may not seem like much in your day-to-day checklists, but laundry for your kids, important. Groceries for your family, important. Bills paid for the family, important. Whatever it is taking up your time that seems meaningless, important. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. YOU ARE AWESOME. YOU ARE AMAZING.
With that being said, you may be a super woman but you are NOT the Superwoman. If you feel like you are running on empty, maybe you are. Maybe the putting yourself last in every category is starting to take a toll on your health and well-being. You may be amazing beyond words, beautifully crafted to be the woman you are, but you do not possess super powers. You must still meet the needs of your own self.
Why? Because every single hat and plate suffers if you are not whole. Have you snapped at the people close to you? The minis and full size versions of love surrounding you? Do you feel like you could lay down and sleep for days? In fact, if someone were to say you get one wish, it would be to be in complete silence, left alone for days to sleep and do nothing. Not only are you not performing at max capacity when the tank is empty, but you also are missing out. Missing out on so, so much. You are rushing around, passing through life, not seeing the moments. The most tiny moments and blessings surrounding your daily path. The flowers. The trees. The smells. The smiles. The connected conversations. Your to-do lists have overcome you and taken over! Can you tell me something beautiful that crossed your path today? Or can you only tell me what all you checked off the list? Accomplished? If this is you, pause now.
Woman. I am not asking you to drop any of your to-do list, I know not what is priority and what can go by the wayside in my readers’ eyes. Some of you carry so much on your shoulders, much more than I do. I am asking you to look. Look at what all you do. No wonder you are worn. No wonder you are tired. You have given every part of you away, saving very little for yourself. I am asking you to look at what you do, and pause. Pause in the moments. See the moments. See the blessings. See, because He sees you. Care for yourself, because He cares for you. You can only be the best version of yourself, when you actually invest in yourself. Now, this does not mean you have a green light to veg in front of the television with your favorite sitcom. Rather, spend whatever time you can give, investing in your well-being. This could mean a drive home with worship music in ears, not phone calls and checklist cross offs. This could mean ten minutes of pause on the porch in the morning or evening. This could mean 20 minute walk and talk with God. This could mean an hour workout. This could mean alone time for only a few minutes a day.
A few things to remember….
It is ok to ask for help.
It is ok to not be able to do it all.
It is ok to say no to something not on a priority list or allows you to have some time for self. NO, is a full sentence.
When you realize you are not the Superwoman and you are only human, you can rid yourself of your own expectations and realize, you can do anything, but you CANNOT do everything.
With much love,
Fellow super woman